Understanding Orgasms: Science, Solutions, and Why Doctors Don't Ask | Dr. Lauren Streicher
70% of OB-GYNs never ask patients about orgasm. And when women finally get the courage to bring it up, the answer is usually "this just happens when you age."
That's not an answer. That's a dismissal.
Dr. Lauren Streicher is a professor at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine and senior researcher with the Kinsey Institute. In this Between Two Labia episode — filmed in my office — she breaks down what's actually happening, why it's happening, and what to do about it.
We start with physiology — what an orgasm actually is, why arousal has to come first, and why anatomical distance matters more than most women have ever been told. Dr. Streicher walks through Maria Bonaparte's research from the 1920s that identified the 2.5 centimeter rule and what it means for orgasm during intercourse. Only 7% of women consistently orgasm from intercourse alone without additional clitoral stimulation. That's not a dysfunction — that's anatomy.
We get into primary versus acquired orgasmic dysfunction, and why the culprit for women who used to have orgasms and can't anymore is usually SSRIs — not hormones. Solutions exist: Viagra, topical sildenafil, CBD, local estrogen directly on the clitoris. We talk about why vibrators become medically necessary as nerve endings change with age, not just a nice-to-have. And we cover the FDA's removal of the box warning from local vaginal estrogen — and what that actually means for women who were told they couldn't use it.
What you'll learn:
Why 70% of OB-GYNs never ask about sexual function — and what to do when yours doesn't
What happens during orgasm, and why arousal has to come first
The different types of orgasms and why the cervix has separate nerve pathways
Maria Bonaparte's 1920s research on clitoral-vaginal distance and the 2.5 centimeter rule
Why only 7% of women consistently orgasm from intercourse alone
The difference between primary and acquired orgasmic dysfunction
Why SSRIs are often the culprit when orgasms stop — and what to do about it
Solutions including Viagra, topical sildenafil, and CBD for SSRI-induced dysfunction
Why vibrators become medically necessary as nerve endings change with age
Why local estrogen on the clitoris matters and who can actually use it
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