Midlife & Menopause: Why Your Relationships Feel Like They're Falling Apart
Midlife isn’t just about hot flashes or forgetting names it’s a time when many women start noticing subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) shifts in how they feel, think, and relate to the world around them. For some, it’s frustration they can’t quite name. For others, it’s sleep disruptions, mood changes, or a fading sex drive. These changes aren’t imagined and they’re not always easy to talk about.
In this episode, I talk with Dr. Kate White about what really happens to the body and mind during midlife and why so many women feel unsupported during this transition. We explore how hormonal shifts can affect mood, memory, desire, and relationships not for everyone, but for more women than we acknowledge. Dr. White brings both her clinical experience and personal insight, shedding light on why these experiences are real, valid, and deserving of better care.
We also dig into the emotional weight that comes with midlife the shifting roles as parents, professionals, and partners and how this period can lead to questioning everything from career goals to long-term relationships. It’s not about assigning blame to hormones, but about recognizing them as one piece of a complex puzzle.
This conversation is about validation, education, and hope. Whether you’re in the thick of midlife changes or just starting to feel things shift, this episode is an invitation to listen without shame and to speak up without apology.
Highlights:
Why midlife can feel like an emotional landmine
How hormone changes impact libido, focus, and memory
What no one tells you about perimenopausal rage
The link between invisible labor and sexual disconnection
Tips for recalibrating long-term relationships without blowing them up
Why naming the problem isn’t blaming—it’s empowering
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Guest Bio:
Dr. Kate and Jay White are the married duo behind Heads and Tails, a podcast about recalibrating life, love, and identity in midlife. With over 50 years of combined experience Kate as a nationally recognized gynecologist and menopause/sexual medicine specialist, and Jay as a seasoned therapist, musician, and magician they bring both clinical expertise and real-life perspective to the mic.
Married for 26 years, they’ve weathered their own relationship evolutions while raising kids, building careers, and navigating the many curveballs of midlife. Together, they speak candidly (and often hilariously) about everything from hormones and hot flashes to emotional intimacy and second chances.
Their chemistry is real, their advice is grounded, and their mission is clear: to help listeners turn the so-called “midlife crisis” into a powerful recalibration body, brain, and relationship.
