Too Tired for Sex? The Real Reasons Women Lose Desire
What if your low libido isn’t about hormones at all? What if the mental load you're carrying is quietly draining your desire?
So many women come to me wondering what happened to their sex drive. They blame hormones, aging, or even themselves—but rarely do they consider the daily grind of their own lives. In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sparked massive discussion at a recent sexual health conference: how gender dynamics in heterosexual relationships can play a major role in low desire.
Inspired by a presentation from sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Mintz, we explore what happens when women take on more of the housework, childcare, and emotional labor in a relationship. We talk about why inequities in household duties, blurred lines between caregiving and romance, and constantly running a mental to-do list all add up to a complete libido crash.
This episode isn’t just about identifying the problem—it’s about understanding how chronic stress, hormonal shifts, and societal expectations intersect to shape your sexual experience. I also share actionable insights from clinical work and research that can help you reconnect with your own pleasure and reframe desire on your own terms.
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just trying to rediscover what pleasure looks like for you, this is the conversation that might finally explain what no one else has.
Highlights:
The 2021 study linking gender roles to low sexual desire in heterosexual couples
Why the division of household labor can quietly kill intimacy
How chronic stress and role overload affect hormones and sexual arousal
Actionable strategies to reclaim desire, from scheduling "trysts" to sensory mindfulness
The impact of perceived unfairness and caregiving dynamics on sexual connection
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